Now that the new year had arrived it is important to not make the same mistakes made in 2017. For me, I like things to be written down to best process what I need to do, so it’s only right that the changes I want to make over the next 12 months are as follows.
No.1 Say goodbye to Social Media
It is safe to say in today’s society we are all guilty of letting social media dictate our lives, but in my opinion, this isn’t a good thing. Gone are the days when you are sat in a waiting room organically speaking to complete strangers just because – life is all about communication and my first change will be to restrict how much time I spend scrolling through social media only to see that Jenny had Eggs Benedict for breakfast at Cafe Rouge.
No.2 Find my “Happy Place”
Do you ever get that sickly feeling when you finally stop and take a check on your life? Being on the go is a good thing but you must also find the time to stop and take a minute for yourself. 2018 for me has already turned out to be a stressful year and its only 17th January, but for me to be fully focused and organised i must “find my happy place” whether that be running a bubble bath and lighting some candles, snuggling onto the sofa to watch my favourite tv series, spending the day with my best friend or simply having a hot chocolate with marshmallows before bed. Whatever relaxes you to stop thinking about all that you need to do; is well worth the time – life is all about balance.
No.3 Read More
Ok, so being 100% honest the last time I sat down and read a book (and I’m not talking about my weekly Grazia subscription) was probably back in school studying for my A-Level English exam. For me, reading has never been something that I love or really want to spend time doing, however, the older I get the more I realise its importance. As I sat down to write this section I realised the main reason why I never liked reading in the first place is that I don’t actually know what type of literature I enjoy. So for 2018 my focus and challenge are to begin reading and choosing my first book as one that would send my imagination running wild.
No.4 Stress Management
Life and stress practically go hand in hand, however knowing the difference between good and bad stress and mostly how to manage it is definitely one of my downfalls. Whether it be in my professional or personal life, I often tend to ignore stress which ends up in a mini 10-minute meltdown and this is never good. Learning to be more open-minded to stress and try different ways of processing stress will allow me to have a much clearer mindset when I feel I’m in a stressful situation. Because we as humans often forget that not all stress is bad.
No.5 Overthinking, everything
Now, this isn’t exactly a new change, more than something I started doing in the latter half of 2017 and it is definitely something I will be carrying through into the new year. Looking back at the person I was at 16, 18 then 20 to who I am now my obsession with what others thought about me, their opinions and ideas would always be like a kick in the stomach no matter if they were positive or negative – I just wanted to be liked and please everyone which ultimately came at the cost of my own self-worth. Over 2017 I learned to find my voice when it comes to overthinking I no longer let opinions of those who are irrelevant affect me. It’s important for me to be authentic and that comes with others either not liking or not understanding that and that is completely OK.
No.6 Live in the Moment
Life is full of surprises both big and small but for those moments to become memories you must be present. The simple things in life like dinner, evening walks, talking on the phone for hours are all now interrupted by technology – sitting at the table with my closest friends without one person on their phone is nearly impossible but it shouldn’t be. So probably my biggest change of 2018 will be learning to put down my phone and living in the moment. Talking to people and actually listening to what they have to say, this is something we all used to do (way back when) but it is also upholding the manners and courtesy my parents painfully instilled in me for 23 years.
No.7 Stepping out of my Comfort Zone
Whether it being fashion, career, love life, music or food trying new things is something all of us must do in order to evolve. As I get older my choices and comforts change, looking back at me 4 years ago and minus my current food-obsessed boyfriend I would live on beans on toast or chicken strips, waffles and beans – now you’ll catch me at a Michelin star restaurant chewing down scallop risotto and braised venison with confit potatoes and a red wine jus. That’s just one example of how stepping outside my comfort zone opened up new possibilities, and as we head into 2018 I feel this is going to play a big part of my year.
No.8 Get me a Tan
Wow, do I love travelling, but don’t we all? I’ve been fortunate to have visited many parts of the world from America, Hong Kong, Italy and Iceland to name a few. However, it’s been almost 4 years since I’ve had a proper tan – you know the one where you lie by the pool all day in 30-degree heat switching from back to front every 45 minutes. Yes, that tan I so need in 2018, don’t get me wrong I love travelling and feel very blessed to have seen all that I have but the idea of spending 5 days relaxing by a pool with no care in the world is something I long for. Because we all know life is better with a tan.
No.9 Candles, Candles & more Candles
From Yankee to Diptyque to Jo Malone candles for me are everything – my scent of choice is white linen. They make a house a home and can take a room from chaos to tranquil in an instant. So with me kicking off 2018 moving into my first home, I feel it’s very apt to cover every countertop with candles.
“My scent of choice is white linen”
No.10 Driving School 101
Everyone who knows me and has had the pleasure of getting in my car will tell you I drive like Lewis Hamilton and the word ‘erratic’ gets thrown around a lot too. In my opinion, I think I’m a terrific driver, however, the majority disagree so I thought it was time I took note of these comments and did something about it as I am often the first to criticise someone else’s driving and frequently get road rage which is putting others on the road at risk. For some reason, I am always in a rush when behind the wheel so sticking to the speed limits, ample breaking distance and being calmer is something that will no doubt take time but will be a change for the better.
No.11 Be Hydrated
H2O is key, and I most definitely do not get enough of it. 65% of the human body is made up of water and yet I somehow manage to starve myself of it every day. Water has so many health benefits besides the obvious, at the end of each day I am either tired, deflated or run down but by drinking 2 litres of water every day is minuscule in comparison to so many other things in life we give much more consideration to. That being said everything happens gradually and in moderation, so to ensure this change is upheld gradually increasing my water intake over time I will soon start to reap the rewards.
5 Benefits of drinking water:
Boosts your immune system
Flushes out toxins
Aids digestion – bye bye bloating
No.12 Becoming Selfless
But not in the sense you instantly just thought. Becoming selfless is not the same as being selfish, it’s more about the others around you and the behaviours you express toward them over your own self. There are so many horrible things in the world that it becomes easy to forget the most basic things in life. Manners cost nothing and the way in which you act to others says a lot about who you are as a human being. I’m not claiming to be a selfless person right this second and even when I reach the point where I feel I am doing selfless acts this isn’t something I would publicise as it defeats the purpose of being selfless, but more than I am mindful of being kind and generous to those I care dearly about. Achieving this can be done in many forms whether that be listening to my best friends problems and not judging, broadening my perspective on real-world issues, lifting someone up when they are down, telling my mum I love you every day or; just being thankful for all that I have in life.